Be a Person of High Integrity

Be a Person of High Integrity
The world admires and benefits those that have high
integrity. If you are a person of integrity, a person of
quality, a person of excellence, the world will reward you.
This is an important key to being a winner in life and
business.

People will be attracted to you, be persuaded by you and
willing to help you toward your ends, to do the things that
you want them to do.

To be a person of high integrity go the extra mile, do more
than you have promised. If you an appointment, you are
early for your appointment. You respect the other person's
time, you do not come late. That communicates your time is
more important than theirs.

Which brings me to the other issue, some people might say,
"But, if I have high esteem, I'm proud and really like
myself, won't I be arrogant?

That's not true, unless you think you are better than
somebody else; that is what arrogance means. Arrogance
says "I am better than you." True high self esteem means
that you are excellent and the other person is excellent.
You regard them as highly as you regard yourself. It is a
win-the win situation.

We have been talking about going the extra mile, doing more
than promised, being on time for appointments, respecting
the other person's time, making promises that you keep. If
you really want to go the extra mile, what you should
really do is under-promise and over-deliver. That is,
promise less but give more than the person expects. That
will amaze them, they will feel good about you and you will
feel good about yourself.

You can feel good about yourself even when other people do
not feel good about you, but it certainly helps and makes
it easier when other people feel good about you too.

The person of integrity is always honest, which can be a
challenge. I remember sometime ago I took my family on
vacation to Travis City and on the way back we stopped at a
nice restaurant. So we ordered a meal. When it came time
to pay the bill, I discovered that I did not have my
wallet. I realized I had locked it in the trunk, along
with the key to the trunk. In those days there were two
keys to the cars, an ignition key and a trunk key.

I explained my problem to the manager and he was
understanding and gave me his address and I fully intended
to mail him a check the very next day I got home. Well, I
was surprised how I hesitated writing that check. I have
to admit that I thought to myself, oh gees, he's miles
away, I will never see him again, I could use that extra
money.

It took me about an hour of arguing with myself before I
finally wrote the check and sent it to him. I soon felt
good and felt proud, I know I will never see him again, but
I realize that whatever you are doing, someone is watching.
Someone is watching, I am not talking about God, although
that might be true, but there is someone that we know is
always watching everything you do -- that person is you.
You have an observing part that evaluates and judges you.
And you know, you know deep in your heart when you are
doing the right thing. When you do the right thing, how
proud you feel of yourself. And you know when you do the
wrong thing, you might forget it and think that although
you did something that was not quite right, you will get
away with it. But I knew that if I did not pay that bill,
that knowledge would be down in my brain, lurking, just
beneath my conscious mind and I would not be feeling proud
and good about myself. You want to be able to hold your
head up high, look people in the eye and you will
communicate something to them on an unconscious basis
perhaps, but they will know you are a person of integrity
and quality. They will respect you, trust you, do business
with you and you will accomplish more than you ever dreamed
that you could.

Let me sum up. To have ultimate happiness, you must give
yourself unconditional high self regard. Accept yourself
no matter how many imperfections you have, no matter how
many mistakes you make. In order to accept yourself
totally, you have to do things that are not always easy,
but things of which you can be proud.

Let me end by challenging you to always be a person of high
integrity.

This is an important key to being a winner in life and
business.

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Stan Mann, C.P.C. supports business owners, top executives
and commission salespeople to substantially grow their
business and have a balanced life. He is a Certified
Professional Coach. For additional articles and resources
please visit http://www.stanmann.com