Divorce Recovery & the 5 Sources of Hope ? How to Find the Courage to Make a Smooth Divorce Recovery

Divorce Recovery & the 5 Sources of Hope ? How to Find the Courage to Make a Smooth Divorce Recovery
Recovery from divorce requires us to make a "leap of faith"
into an unknown future. Since we haven't done it yet, we
don't really know for sure how it will turn out. Our
personal source of hope gives us the courage to move
forward in the face of the uncertainty.

But the hard question is, "Where can I go to find my
personal source of hope?"

Source 1: Hope Can Be Found within Ourselves

A person's "source of hope" might include an implicit trust
in him or herself. People use their belief that they have
the ability to handle anything that they may encounter to
give them courage to face their recovery from divorce.

Source 2: Hope Can Be Found in Others

Hope can also be found in a belief in the trustworthy, good
intentions of their friends. They have experienced what
they consider "trustworthy" treatment in the past, and
subsequently trust others to protect them from harm and
help them as they face the challenges of divorce recovery.

Source 3: Hope Can Be Found in Our Philosophical Belief
Systems

Still others' seek their hope in more intellectual areas,
like philosophy. We all have been exposed to explanations
about what life is all about. Sometimes it seems to "fit
with our experience" and therefore "makes sense" to us. We
may not have called it "my philosophy of life," but that's
what it is, nonetheless. Search that philosophy for its
basis for hope, especially where it addresses the reasons
for being optimistic about life. It will almost always hold
out hope for making future transitions, including divorce
recovery.

Source 4: Hope Can Be Found in Our Religious or Spiritual
Beliefs

Some find hope in their spiritual beliefs. It may be in an
organized religion. It may be a non-religious, spiritual
belief in the existence of good in this world. A strong
spiritual belief enables us to "act as if" good is there
waiting for us in all unknown future situations.

Source 5: Hope Can Be Found in Nature

Others find a basis for hope in the infinite complexity and
beauty of nature. Some find it in the cosmos. Others find
it in the microscope. Others find it in flowers, lakes,
mountains, oceans. I had a client whose divorce recovery
had been stuck for four years. Then she spent a week
enjoying the woods of New Hampshire. When she returned the
logjam that had been preventing her from moving on had
broken up, and she was able to make a "miraculous" divorce
recovery in the next four weeks.

Which Source to Use DOES NOT Matter

However, what does matter is using a source of hope that
makes sense to you personally! When faced with making our
recovery from divorce, we must FIND our source of hope and
USE it! There we will find the strength to know things will
work out for the good. The result is courage to confront
the demons that threaten our successful recovery from
divorce.

Whatever the source of hope that resonates within you, you
must use it. That is the key to dealing with the unknowns
of recovery from divorce.

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Young and I help divorced clients return to the mainstream
of life with renewed hope, unfettered by the chains of
anger, resentment, and shame that accompany divorce.