For Singles: 5 Key Questions for Creating Your 2008 Attraction Plan for Dating

For Singles: 5 Key Questions for Creating Your 2008 Attraction Plan for Dating
The New Year is upon us. It's time for a new beginning,
turning over a new leaf, and for renewing our hope of
finding love this year. Now is the time to think about how
you want 2008 to be for you. You get to create what you
feel is possible for you.

Here are some relationship questions and suggestions from
your relationship coach to get you thinking about what you
want to attract into your life this year.

* How would you envision your life to look in January
2009, a year from now? What values and characteristics do
you want your romantic partner to have?

Here, I am asking you to close your eyes and see your life
a year from now. If you see it, then you can work toward
your vision. Once you have visualized what you want, it's
important to make it real by creating a picture of it or
putting together a collage of what you want your life to
look like and what qualities you want your romantic partner
to embody.

For instance, when I was single, I made a picture (a very
primitive one!) of a male and female stick figure dancing
and skiing. This is my representation of what my boyfriend
(eventual husband) and I would be doing. It turns out even
though my husband didn't really dance or ski, he was
willing to learn! So my vision did turn into reality after
all.

* What are your dating or relationship goals for 2008? (3
months/ 6 months/ 1 year)

Goals need to be written down to make them attainable. I
suggest you post your goals at a place you see at least
once a day. I post my goals on the bathroom mirror.

For instance, an example of goals written down is "in 3
months time I will be dating someone steadily, lose 10
pounds, and work as a volunteer once a month". As a
relationship coach, some of my clients have told me they
put their goals on their computer- or in their Blackberry.

* What would support you in achieving your dating and
relationship goals for 2008?

For instance, would losing weight or having a makeover
support you in feeling better about yourself so you would
be more confident about going out and dating?

Perhaps better time management would give you more time in
your day to look for someone and for going out on dates.
Taking up a new sport can put you in touch with new people
to date. Last, by working with a relationship coach or a
therapist, you can get the support and encouragement you
may need from an impartial person to take action.

* What one or two things will you try that you haven't yet
tried in order to meet new people to date?

I recommend going to my website in the Resources page to
see what singles groups are in the major cities that you
may want to check out. Also, you can Google "singles
groups" in your particular local area.

Additional dating advice for women and men is for you to
find something that you haven't tried before where you will
feel comfortable. For instance, if you are not athletic,
then I don't recommend you going to a sports-oriented
groups. You may feel awkward there. Also, see my article,
"Where to Find You Motivated to Marry™ Partner" in my
free page of my website to get more ideas on where to meet
people for dating.

* Who can you enlist to help you in your search for a life
partner?

There is a whole list of people who can help you: friends,
family, co-workers, leaders at your synagogue or church.
Also, there are match-makers who help people find life
partners for a fee. It's also a known fact that married
women love to fix people up. So who can you approach about
setting you up on a date?

Bonus question: What will you commit to doing differently
in 2008 that you haven't done this past year? Do you need
to change your attitude about dating from an uptight
perspective to a more relaxed one? Are you willing to be
more open and positive about dating?

All this will make you more attractive to the opposite sex.
Perhaps you need to learn how to weed through suitors
better and more quickly.

And, how is your rejection tolerance? Are you willing to
face your fears head on and be fearless about meeting new
people to date this year?

Last, give someone a second chance or a second date. You
may be pleasantly surprised what's really there.

My hope is that these relationship questions and dating
advice for women and men have pushed you to think outside
your box about dating, causing you to consider trying out a
new approach or new ways to meet people. When you take
yourself outside your comfort zone and stay true to
yourself, you will attract the right person to you!

Have a happy and fulfilling New Year!

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Amy Schoen, certified professional relationship life coach,
helps singles to attract the right romantic relationship
into their lives, is the author of "Motivated to
Marry®", "30 Reasons Not to Get Married Until You are
30" and "Get It Right This Time™- How to Find and
Keep Your Ideal Romantic Relationship". For dating tips for
men and women, subscribe to Amy's FREE monthly e-newsletter
and teleclasses at:
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